Holiday Grief
The holidays are usually difficult when you’re grieving the loss of a loved one. Here are three strategies to help you get through this season.
Give yourself permission to do the holidays differently this year (and as long as you want)
If you’re dreading the family get together, you don’t have to go. Or you can go for part of the holiday but not stay for the whole thing. You can choose which activities to take part in. Family traditions may change, or someone new may step up to maintain them. Some families add in a new tradition to remember the people who are no longer physically present. Either way, things will be different for everyone. Some people want to be alone after their loss, and others want to go do something- but not with family. Many people enjoy going to national parks during the holidays when it’s slower and quieter.
Make time for your grief
No matter how long it’s been since your loss, grief can still affect you. If you expect the grief to come up, you can plan ahead to leave space to feel your emotions, sit with the memories, and acknowledge the pain of your loss. Whether you choose to spend the holidays with family, with friends, or by yourself, leave room for grief to show up.
Connect with holiday grief support
Many of my grief clients come to therapy regularly through their first year of grieving, but then just come to therapy for that extra support during the holiday season and around difficult anniversaries. There are also holiday grief support groups available in many communities through churches, community centers, and therapy groups.
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