Helping you find your way through grief, anxiety, and life’s difficult seasons.
Find greater clarity and direction by understanding what’s happening in your mind and body so your emotions and responses make more sense and feel easier to navigate.
Online therapy based in Aptos and serving clients across California
Grief | Anxiety | Christian Therapy | Therapy for Therapists
When the grief, anxiety, and uncertainty feel overwhelming, it’s difficult to find your way forward
Maybe someone you love has died, whether recently or a while ago, and the pain of your loss feels like it’s taking over your life. It’s harder than you feel like it should be to get through your daily routines, and you can’t stop thinking about them. Or maybe you’re going through anticipatory grief as you’re caregiving for a loved one or supporting a friend as they approach death.
You might be going through another form of loss like a medical diagnosis, moving somewhere new, layoffs at work, divorce, or conflict that’s dividing your family. The stress of these life transitions can bring up regret, stress, fears, and uncertainty as you face a changing future.
Perhaps you’re experiencing anxiety that leaves your mind racing, stuck on the future what-ifs and past mistakes regardless of how things actually turn out. Maybe it feels like your anxious mind spins a wheel each morning and chooses something random to get stuck on, or maybe it’s latched onto specific fears, obsessions, or compulsions that it can’t let go of.
You may also be experiencing the effects of past or present trauma related to your grief or anxiety. Maybe your grief is related to a violent death, suicide, or traumatic medical experience. Or maybe your anxiety started after an accident, disaster, or event that’s stuck with you. Intrusive memories, flashbacks, nightmares, and hypervigilance are all signs that your grief or anxiety are being affected by trauma.
You’ve tried a lot of strategies to manage the flood of thoughts and emotions, but all that effort has left you exhausted without fixing anything.
Whether you’re dealing with anxiety or grief, it can start to feel like an impossible task to deal with all the mental chatter, the stress of trying to keep it together, and the weight of uncertainty about the future.
You might be feeling:
Uncertain how much longer you can keep going like this without relief
Like you want to just pause life while you deal with everything that’s going on
Left behind by others who are able to simply live normally while you’re struggling
Defeated and tired from all your efforts to fix things that haven’t worked
When you’re struggling to manage grief or anxiety, you’ve found that simply trying harder isn’t enough. But something needs to change.
Jessica Brohmer, LMFT is an online therapist based in Aptos and serving clients across California specializing in grief and anxiety.
Hi, I’m Jessica.
I believe that understanding what’s happening in your mind and body during anxiety and grief helps you navigate these difficult seasons with greater confidence and resilience.
We often feel the most afraid of things we don’t understand and can’t control. So it makes sense that the sudden pain of grief or the relentless spirals of anxiety feel so overwhelming, confusing, and even frightening.
Our minds naturally want to make sense of what’s happening. That’s why I believe an understanding of the neuroscience behind anxiety and grief matters. When you begin to put words to your experience, just having a story of why makes it feel more manageable.
Understanding doesn’t make the pain of grief go away or the spiral of anxiety suddenly disappear. But it does give you a greater sense of direction and grounding as you work through your experience.
Areas of Specialization
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Grief Therapy
Grief isn't something you have to "get over." Whether you're mourning the death of someone you love, navigating a life-changing loss, or grieving a future you thought you'd have, we'll work together to understand your experience, honor the significance of your loss, and find a new way forward.
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Anxiety Therapy
When your mind won't slow down, it's hard to feel present in your own life. Together, we'll explore what's happening in your mind and body so anxiety feels less confusing and easier to navigate, helping you respond with greater flexibility, confidence, and compassion instead of fear.
Looking for something more specific?
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When faith is an important part of your life, it can become an integral part of our work together, not simply an add-on but a lens through which we make sense of grief, anxiety, healing, and hope. My approach thoughtfully integrates theology and psychology while honoring your relationship with God and the unique story you bring into the room. Learn more here.
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Whether you're a student therapist, an associate building your career, or a seasoned clinician navigating grief, anxiety, or life's inevitable challenges, therapy offers a place where you don't have to be the helper. My goal is to create a space where you can step outside your professional role, engage with your own experience, and simply be human. Learn more here.
Getting started with online therapy
Reach out when you’re ready. Whether you'd like to schedule a consultation or simply have a few questions first, you're welcome to reach out in whatever way feels most comfortable. Starting therapy can feel like a big step, and it's okay if you need a little space to explore before deciding.
We’ll see if we’re the right fit. Our consultation is a relaxed, no-pressure conversation about what's bringing you to therapy and what you're hoping for. It's a chance for you to ask questions, get a feel for how I work, and decide whether it feels like the right place to begin your journey.
We’ll walk through it together. If we decide to move forward, we'll meet weekly by secure video for one-hour sessions or asynchronous therapy using secure messaging. My practice is designed to provide consistent support in the midst of real life, not just during a scheduled hour each week, so you don't have to navigate grief and anxiety on your own. My hope is that therapy becomes a place where you feel understood, supported, and better equipped to find your way through life's difficult seasons.